Engagement (Ring) Envy....

BEFORE YOU READ THIS: I'm not writing this to offend anyone, and there's nothing wrong with having a big ring. Nothing at ALL is wrong with it. Just don't be a whiny brat about it, or shove it in peoples faces like you're better than them... This is simply food for thought....

     I'm sure you know exactly where I'm about to be headed with this post. It's becoming a thing to out do your friends and even your family members when it comes to the size of that rock on your hand. As I was browsing the internet this morning, I came across several articles about this so-called ring envy and it really started to bother me, and immediately erased any thought of mine I've ever had about wanting a bigger, more sparkly ring.

     I feel like every woman has had the thought cross her mind at least once, after seeing someones 2 ct. sparkler and thinking
"Wow, that must be nice..."
"How can someone afford that?"
"What does my ring look like next to THAT?"

     Then, if you find yourself sucked into that jealous, you sit there thinking and thinking about rings and bigger diamond and all that superficial... Well, bullshit. If you're married or even engaged, look in the mirror. Look at yourself, look at your fiancé/husband and realize how lucky you are. Do you really think a huge ring, from some asshole or anyone else for that matter would really make your world better than it already is? I highly doubt that it would.
   
     I know for a fact, that I wouldn't trade my marriage for anything in the world. My husband and I might be young and people might think we're stupid; but as far as I'm concerned, we're so happy and so in love and that's all that matters. It's unfortunate how wrapped up society has become in money, and out doing one another-including our loved ones. I've realized from day 1 how fortunate I am to have the relationship that I do with my husband and I'm so thankful for everything I have. We may not be loaded, we're struggling college students but we're growing together every single day. What's better than being madly in love and growing together every single day? Not much, if you ask me.

     As I've searched around wedding blogs and other websites, I've seen so many women whining about their rings not being big enough, or saying that they demand a certain carat weight. I've even seen women asking, "Is my ring big enough?" or "How small is too small for an engagement ring?" Is society really becoming that focused on superficial things? I don't get it, it's actually quite sad to me. Sure, big diamonds are beautiful but they're not for everybody. These women flashing around their huge rocks (not all of you.... only the ones that have ended up being stuck up.... well, bitches about it) are making some women feel like crap and feel insecure about their own ring. There are of course, two sides to that, though. To the women with the big rings.... It's yours, it's beautiful, it was expensive, we get it. Don't shove it in my face or make me feel like crap about my own ring. Then, to the women with the not so big rings.... It's yours, embrace it, love it like it's 3 carats, and be fortunate for what you are able to have. Don't let others upset you.

     In the end, it's not about how big your ring is, or how much money you have.... It's about how strong your marriage is. The diamond won't keep you together, your strong relationship will. I always wondered how strong the relationships really are, when the woman is demanding a certain size diamond before she claims she'll say yes.... Trust me, I've witnessed it. It's sad, but it happens.